"You are not perfect, you have flaws."

I found out from Gale today that my first dental cleaning from her was 16 years ago. 

I marveled, "Your kids were babies then". Gale became a grandma last year. 

"They are still babies."

I chuckled after a few seconds. Gale was not happy with my response. 

"It took you that long!"

Gale and I have bonded over the last 16 years in keeping my teeth. I have a unique set of teeth from the overuse of tetracycline and the lack of dental care growing up. Back in the 70s’ China, tetracycline was a go-to antibiotic for every bacterial infection including common cold, gonorrhea, which I had plenty. The “tetracycline teeth” kids, as many of us being called while growing up, would not like to show the jarring teeth in dark and brown color when take selfies today.

Gale was protective of the bond, after my initial dental exam. She always apologized after the first exam of each new dentist in the office we broke in together over the years.

“I am sorry you have to go through that, Quan, but you are unique.”

After examining the dental x-rays today, Gale was seemly satisfied. Then she added,

"But you are not perfect, you have flaws,".

Feeling my dental homework un-appreciated, I responded, 

"I do floss." 

Nashville and the New Year Resolution

On my way to Nashville, I recalled a passenger I met a few years ago on a long haul flight to Shanghai. He grew up a surf boy in San Diego, and later found home in Nashville. He owned a company making hunting gears. Using his product catalog, he proudly showed me hundreds of different shooting targets that he designed. He was fit, even though he seemed to be chewing tobacco during the entire trip. After several hours of friendly conversations, he told me to stay away from the dessert. “No sugar, my friend”. Finally, I decided to put less sugar on the resolution for the new year.   

The Uber driver who picked me up in the Nashville airport was also from California. He followed his children and their mom here after the divorce. After learning this was my first trip to Nashville, he got excited. “Are you ready for some honky-tonk, my friend?”. Honky-tonk? I had to google it quickly, and was excited too. New adventure and new learning every day, that is the second resolution on the new year list. 

My colleague told me he would have a surprise for me in Nashville. After searching what was around the hotel that he recommended in the Gulch neighborhood, I found that the Station Inn seemed to be the place to be for live Bluegrass music. I felt sorry that I apparently ruined his surprise. The Bluegrass musicians played in the Station Inn were surprisingly good. The Tuesday night band was a collection of professional and amateur musicians. The two guitar players took turn at the mic. One of the young guitar player looked like about 15. Later on, he had to leave early for school tomorrow. We sit close to the fiddle player. He just kept blown us away. The bass player was the proprietor of the place in the last four decades. Then there were mandolin, banjo, and Dobro.

Dobro is a guitar with a metal plate which creates amazing resonant sound. I found more about it on youtube by Jerry Douglas, the best Dobro player according to my friend.

The players took turns for a half step up to do their highlight of a song. The rest of the band would look him on, nodding in support. They were having a good time. We were having a good time. It was a harmony of collaboration, inclusion, appreciation, patience and calm. Those, of course, are the rest of the new year resolution for 2017.